"The Absent Father Effect on the Daughter" by Susan Schwartz

"The Absent Father Effect on the Daughter" by Susan Schwartz explores the impact of father absence on daughters' lives and relationships.
Here are 10 lessons from the book:

1. Father-Daughter Bond: The father-daughter relationship plays a crucial role in a girl's emotional development and self-esteem. Schwartz highlights the significance of this bond and its lasting effects on daughters' lives.

2. Emotional Consequences: Father absence can lead to a range of emotional consequences for daughters, including feelings of abandonment, inadequacy, and low self-worth. Schwartz examines how these emotional wounds can affect girls' relationships and well-being into adulthood.

3. Impact on Identity: Fathers play a pivotal role in shaping their daughters' sense of identity and self-image. Schwartz explores how father absence can leave daughters searching for validation and approval from others, impacting their sense of self.

4. Attachment Issues: Father absence can result in attachment issues and difficulty forming healthy relationships. Schwartz discusses how daughters may struggle with trust, intimacy, and vulnerability due to unresolved father-daughter issues.

5. Interpersonal Patterns: Daughters may unconsciously seek out relationships that mirror their experiences with their absent fathers. Schwartz explores how father absence can influence daughters' interpersonal patterns and romantic choices.

6. Healing and Recovery: Recognizing the impact of father absence is the first step toward healing. Schwartz offers strategies for daughters to acknowledge and process their emotions, cultivate self-awareness, and engage in self-care to facilitate healing and recovery.

7. Forgiveness and Letting Go: Forgiveness can be a powerful tool for daughters to release anger and resentment toward their absent fathers. Schwartz discusses the importance of forgiveness in the healing process and letting go of past hurts to move forward.

8. Building Support Networks: Building a strong support network is essential for daughters coping with father absence. Schwartz encourages daughters to seek support from friends, family, therapists, and support groups to navigate their emotions and experiences.

9. Empowerment and Self-Empathy: Daughters can empower themselves by reclaiming their narratives and embracing self-compassion. Schwartz emphasizes the importance of self-empathy and self-love as daughters navigate their journeys of healing and self-discovery.

10. Breaking Generational Patterns: Breaking generational patterns of father absence requires conscious effort and self-awareness. Schwartz encourages daughters to cultivate healthy relationships, set boundaries, and prioritize their well-being to create a different legacy for future generations.

These lessons from "The Absent Father Effect on the Daughter" shed light on the profound impact of father absence on daughters' lives and offer insights into the journey of healing and self-empowerment.
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The Foundational Western Character Flaw

How Much Sex a Person Has Could Be Linked to Their Mortality Risk

Health10 August 2024
ByCarly Cassella
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Women who regularly have sex are likely to live longer, according to a nationally representative study in the United States.

The findings are derived from interviews and physical exams of male and female participants between the ages of 20 and 59, conducted as part of the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey (NHANES).

In a study led by Walden University public health scientist Srikanta Banerjee, 14,542 adults were asked, "In the past 12 months, about how many times have you had vaginal or anal sex?" Roughly 38 percent claimed to have sex an average of once a week or more.

Even when accounting for education, ethnicity, and socioeconomic status, female participants who claimed to have sex less than 52 times in a year were three times more likely to die from any cause over the five-year study period.

No such association was found for male participants. Yet sexual activity seemed to be particularly important for men – and women – with poor mental health. Participants who had depression and engaged in sexual activity fewer than 52 times in a year were found to have nearly 200 percent higher chance of dying than comparable individuals without depression, while just 75 percent higher chance for those who had sex more than 52 times a year.

The findings build upon the result of another recent study which found a similar association using different years of the NHANES survey. This analysis combined male and female participants together, however, and didn't take into account the exacerbating impact of depression.

Depression on its own has been linked with an increased risk of premature death, and women are twice as likely to suffer from depression as men.

Previous studies have shown that partnered sex is good for the mental and physical health of both males and females, improving cardiovascular health, reducing distress, boosting happiness and well-being, and protecting brain health.

Even solo sexual behaviors, like masturbation, have documented health benefits, including reduced stress, improved sleep, and boosted mood.

But at this point, no one knows how different types of sexual activity may influence a person's long-term health outcomes. Even in this study, the nature of the sexual activity isn't detailed, with authors conceding the inclusion of a sexual satisfaction subscale could overcome study limitations in the future.

"There is mounting interest in understanding how precisely sexual health affects overall health," write the study's authors.

"Although the connections between physical health, social determinants of health, mental health, and poor health are well known, there is a paucity of research regarding the connection between sexual health and long-term mortality outcomes."

Clearly, there is still much left to learn, but the general takeaway seems to be that regular sexual activity, in the broadest sense, is good for human health. At least, that is, to a certain extent.

The recent NHANES study also found that male participants who engaged in daily sexual activity were six times more likely to experience premature death than females who did the same.

Have fun out there, but listen to your body, and make sure to give it a break when needed.

The study was published in the Journal of Psychosexual Health.

DESDE UN INCONSCIENTE FEMENINO PROGRAMADO Y HERIDO SOLO SE PUEDE ELEGIR MAL

                                          



Las películas, series, telenovelas, la cultura, las historias familiares, han programado a la mente femenina para elegir al “chico malo”, al traidor, al mujeriego, al hombre que las hace sufrir y, últimamente, al capo, al mafioso, al que vive rodeado de lujos y mujeres.
Una mujer ciega, programada por los medios, la cultura, y por supuesto por los propios traumas infantiles vividos con su padre, siempre elegirá al que menos le conviene.
Este es el hombre que les gusta, no por guapo, no por productivo, sino por canalla. Es un hombre que miente, que es incapaz de comprometerse. No es alguien digno de un amor puro.

Pero las mujeres los prefieren, porque ellos son los maestros que les enseñarán, a través del camino de la experiencia, que es el camino del dolor, lo que ellas aún no saben de sí mismas.
Harán un tortuoso camino a través de la envidia, los celos, la infidelidad, la humillación.
El camino del amor propio, en cambio, es simple, pero casi nadie lo elige. Esto es porque la mayoría duerme en sus propias programaciones.
Lo que la mayoría de mujeres programadas quiere en un hombre es: dinero (le llaman estabilidad económica), sexo (le llaman “soy deseada”), y que la obedezca (le llaman “soy empoderada”).

Lo que las mujeres programadas ignoran es que son ellas las que están siendo usadas.
¿Cuál es el sueño de la mujer programada?
Que el mal hombre del que está enamorada, cambie. Como esto nunca ocurre, esta mujer se va acostumbrando a soportar mentiras, manipulaciones, malos tratos, violencia. Mientras tanto, su vida personal se derrumba: descuida su trabajo, sus hijos, sus negocios, sus otras relaciones.
Ella sigue esperando que él cambie, porque su ceguera le impide ver que es ella la que tiene que cambiar. Tiene que dejar de pensar como piensa, y bajar a la realidad.

La realidad es que no sabe nada de cómo funciona la mente masculina ni femenina. Y que mientras viva en la ignorancia, elegirá a ciegas, desde el inconsciente. Y lo llamará “destino”.
El problema no son los hombres mujeriegos, el problema son las mujeres programadas que todavía, con todas las herramientas, terapias, sanaciones que hay, siguen eligiéndolos.
Estas mujeres no eligen a los hombres buenos, fieles, trabajadores, porque esos hombres “las aburren”.

Ellas quieren emociones fuertes, al chico malo, al que les gusta a todas. Esto es porque eligen desde una herida profunda en su infancia, y no desde la verdadera esencia de lo que son.
Si la mujer pudiera elegir desde la sabiduría y no desde la ignorancia, elegiría a un buen hombre. Pero como están cegadas por los traumas, enfermas por los eventos del pasado, eligen mal.